November 11th was originally an ordinary day of the year, but because of the "operation" of the online shopping era, it became a shopping carnival for everyone.
Shopping is a necessary part of normal human activities. First of all, shopping solves people’s actual needs. Everyone’s food, clothing, housing and transportation need to be realized through "shopping". Secondly, shopping behavior, as a social activity, is also a basic psychological need of human beings. "Shopping behavior" enables us to maintain an interactive relationship with the outside world and obtain psychological satisfaction. Even "online shopping" has the same social activity function. In addition, with the improvement of human economic prosperity, "shopping behavior" has also produced the functions of satisfying human vanity and relieving psychological pressure. These functions are becoming hidden dangers in various shopping sprees.
"Shopaholic" is a typical mental illness.
Shopaholic is actually a typical mental illness, which has the same influence on human psychological behavior as alcoholism, drug addiction and other psychological behaviors, and will cause great harm to people’s mental and psychological functions and physical health. The damage to their social functions is also obvious, and it is a destructive behavior to individuals and society. This kind of patient is keen on all kinds of shopping, and most of the goods he buys are related to his appearance decoration, such as clothing, shoes and socks, cosmetics, gold and silver jewelry and so on. It pays more attention to the shopping process than the shopping result, and the goods it buys always exceed the actual needs of its own life, even unnecessary goods. In severe cases, they will not hesitate to get into debt, but also complete the crazy shopping behavior, otherwise they will be anxious and restless all day. Psychology believes that the underlying causes are mostly lack of self-esteem, excessive mental pressure, psychological emptiness, etc., and they can’t cope with it in a reasonable and good way, so they have to use shopping to alleviate their mental and psychological difficulties, but they are constantly falling into a mental and psychological abnormal state of deeper pain. Most of these people show some specific mental and psychological states. Such as: 1. Emotionally fragile, full of fantasy, too romantic and unrealistic, relying too much on external materials to satisfy themselves. 2. Jealous vanity, lack of self-confidence, often shopping out of comparison mentality, but also more vulnerable to the temptation of various commodity propaganda and shopping. 3. Mental and psychological stress is too great or the mind is empty, so as to relieve stress through shopping and gain a sense of relaxation and fulfillment. I often regret what I bought when I found out later that I didn’t need it. 4. Wrong concept of life, inner insecurity,Excessive possession of goods, regardless of the actual needs of the goods bought.
Bad shopping psychology is related to personal growth environment.
Bad shopping psychology is influenced by many factors. There are mainly long-term personal growth environment and realistic adverse factors. Maybe the mind is traumatized, and there is a lack of care and security in the heart after adulthood, resulting in personality defects. Faced with the pressure of real life, they can’t get good social support, and unconsciously use shopping spree to alleviate their inner anxiety and dissatisfaction. On the other hand, because of their own psychological fragility, in the face of complex pressures in real life, people will also fall into excessive shopping behavior in an attempt to fight against the dilemma of relieving psychological pressure. Sick shopping dependence is not only a problem of "waste" of money and material, nor a simple personal bad habit, but a typical mental and psychological abnormal disease, which will have an adverse impact on the harmony of individuals, families and social life. Among the patients of the author, there are often cases in which the husband and wife go shopping crazily, which leads to the bankruptcy of family economy and the breakdown of marriage feelings. Many of these patients suffered from psychological trauma in their early life, or adverse factors such as realistic pressure, which led to emotional anxiety and depression, and the secondary morbid shopping behavior did not get the corresponding timely treatment results. In daily life, most people don’t know enough about "morbid shopping", so people around them often respond by criticizing, accusing, obstructing and even violence, but they can’t change morbid behavior and forward more intense family conflicts and contradictions.
Shopping should be rational and match your own needs.
It is true that the shopping behavior itself is to meet people’s real life needs, and it can also make people’s brains excited and produce pleasant emotions. Therefore, not all shoppers are "shopaholics", but the increasingly rich material and economic development and the improving shopping environment make it more difficult for most people to control the urge to shop strongly. So what we need to know is what kind of "shopping behavior" is pathological behavior. Notably, first of all, pathological shoppers mostly show unrealistic shopping, buying things that are actually not used at all or things that they like beyond their financial ability for various reasons. Secondly, after buying something, I regret, blame myself and worry constantly, so I can’t let it go for a long time. Third, neither self-restraint nor external pressure can stop the impulse of shopping desire and stop unnecessary shopping behavior.
All the above three points reflect the excessive shopping behavior. Whether shopping in traditional shopping malls or new online shopping, it is reasonable to buy things that can make us happy according to our actual ability. On the contrary, it may be morbid psychological behavior.
Like other mental diseases, in the face of morbid shopping behavior, we should first actively introspect and adjust ourselves to win the understanding and help of family and friends. If there are serious psychological and personality factors, we should seek the help of professional doctors in time to make correct diagnosis and treatment, so as to avoid serious consequences.
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