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After 00 and 10, they seem to face two "parallel worlds" since they became sensible — — Virtual world and real world. To some extent, they have two sets of "ways of living" and even two "social support systems".

　　Under such circumstances, banning their contact with mobile phones and depriving one world may not make another world better. This also means that parents’ management of their children’s mobile phones is not simply to isolate their children from their mobile phones, but to help them better survive in the "parallel world" and add value to their lives.

　　Video games and social software firmly attract children’s attention, and even many parents think that mobile phones are the "root of all evils" that affect children’s studies.

　　Since the beginning of this year, the Ministry of Education has issued documents, clearly requiring five management in primary and secondary schools, namely, mobile phone management, sleep management, extracurricular reading management, homework management and physical health management. Before the start of school in autumn, the State Press and Publication Administration issued a document to strictly regulate the time when online game enterprises provide online game services to minors.

　　Under such circumstances, do parents still need to control the time and scope of use of teenagers’ mobile phones? The answer is yes.

　　Under the rude ban, children are more likely to indulge in the internet.

　　If mobile phones are completely banned, can we go back to the era of rolling iron rings and playing glass balls?

　　The answer is probably impossible. Today, the mobile phone is not only a communication tool, but also a "leisure tool" with the update of the times. Not to mention that children love to play, many parents take their mobile phones and it is difficult to put them down. Whether children or parents, the first thing they need is to think calmly about what kind of existence mobile phones and online games are; How should we deal with this mode of existence and achieve a better life for ourselves?

　　What exactly is a mobile phone? Mobile phone is a bridge of interpersonal communication, which makes the world smaller and our life circle bigger. Mobile phones are also a tool to transform the world, and many traditional industries have been reshaped online; Including online education, has also entered the study and life of minors.

　　According to the "Research Report on the Internet Use of Minors in China in 2020" issued by the Central Committee of the Communist Youth League and the China Internet Information Center, 11.5% of minors spend more than 2 hours online every day on weekdays, and 12.2% spend more than 5 hours online every day on holidays; Among these underage netizens, 62.5% often play games online, and more than half play mobile games.

　　It can be said that the mobile phone seems to be the entrance to a "parallel world". When you open the mobile phone, there are surprises and temptations. Some people are "hunting" and "growing vegetables" in it, and some people are lost in it. Both parents and children must learn to survive in this world. Don’t be afraid of strangeness, don’t shrink back from challenges, don’t be lost by temptation, and don’t be disqualified by ignorance.

　　But the reality is that the survey shows that 10% of parents don’t let their children play mobile phones at all, and even when their children surf the Internet, such parents are nervous. There are 60% children who check the information online normally, and they have been mistaken by their parents for playing games.

　　However, many parents talk about the wrong of mobile phones and games, but they can’t let go of their mobile phones. Their preaching is often difficult to convince children. At the same time, the study found that compared with children who are not addicted to the internet, the proportion of parents who surf the internet frequently is 16% higher, and the proportion of parents who don’t communicate with each other and play separately is 10% higher.

　　Research from China Youth Research Center shows that children are more likely to indulge in the internet in families that rudely prohibit their children from surfing the internet.

　　Those children who are academically gifted are not completely free from playing mobile phones and games.

　　Many parents think that after children are separated from mobile phones and games, the "extra" time will be spent on learning. After all, time is constant. If you don’t spend it on mobile phones or games, you will spend it on learning. Is it true?/You don’t say.

　　In fact, because learning efficiency is related to learning time and effect, the longer the learning time, the lower the learning efficiency without obvious improvement in learning effect.

　　To make matters worse, the inefficient learning mode will only bring children a low sense of self-efficacy, and they will become less and less fond of learning, even tired of learning and refuse to learn.

　　Whether you study, use your mobile phone or play games, in the final analysis, it is to let your children grow up and make them more knowledgeable, capable and valuable.

　　No matter whether the child goes online or plays games, when he becomes better and better, it means that parents should let go moderately and don’t dwell on details such as his study time; If the child becomes worse and worse, then parents should pay attention to his state. In our investigation, we found that those children with excellent academic performance are not students who don’t play mobile phones and games at all. From many dimensions, we can see that their lives are complete and their vitality is high.

　　Parents’ intelligent management of their children’s mobile phones does not mean that children and mobile phones are completely isolated. Mobile phone management is not a means to control children, nor a tool to reward and punish children, nor is it a way for parents to vent their emotions. Managing mobile phones is to improve the parent-child relationship, not break it.

　　Let children learn self-discipline, not heteronomy.

　　How to survive better in both virtual and parallel worlds? This requires parents and children to face together and explore together through agreement. Parents should be well-founded and avoid unilaterally adjusting their children’s rules of using mobile phones based on their own subjective wishes. Some parents said that it is not that children are not allowed to play mobile phones, but it is stipulated that they can only play for 30 minutes every day. Then why 30 minutes?

　　In the eyes of experts, children under 3 years old should not touch mobile phones and video games. They should climb, run, play with mud, play house, touch and feel the world with their bodies, instead of raising children on the screen.

　　At the age of 3-6, children can watch cartoons, science and education films, play interactive games and learn to sing and dance, but it is best not to spend more than one hour every day, and they should play with adults or children in the rest of the time.

　　At the age of 7-9, children can use their mobile phones to complete daily tasks, look up information in online courses, and interact in a circle of friends. However, these activities should be carried out under the supervision of parents, monitoring, guiding and managing the online content, interactive objects and overall time.

　　Children aged 10-12 can have personal privacy. Parents don’t have to supervise everything. They should grasp the overall direction, control the overall time, solve the problems they encounter, often communicate with their children about their online experience, and improve the online rules through mutual negotiation and interaction.

　　Children aged 13-18 should independently manage their own mobile phones and time, incorporate mobile phone management into their master plan of life, study and communication, constantly adjust and improve their mobile phone management level, and make mobile phones a "multiplier" rather than a "jammer" for their own life growth. In this process, the relationship between parents and children should be cooperative rather than antagonistic, and parents should gradually give their children the initiative in mobile phone management. In the whole process, maintaining a good parent-child relationship has always been the first magic weapon to give children the ability to manage their mobile phones.

　　Managing mobile phones is to let children learn self-discipline rather than heteronomy. Parents always let go and children always grow up. One day, children will use and manage their mobile phones and play games online completely independently. Theoretically, the earlier parents let their children learn the autonomous management of mobile phones and games when they enter adolescence, the less likely their children are to become addicted to mobile phones or games, and the lower the probability of parent-child conflicts.

　　Never choose "screen parenting" because you are afraid of trouble.

　　The essence of mobile phone management, like emotional management, network management, wealth management and time management, is a part of life management, so mobile phone management for children should start from an early age.

　　First of all, parents can’t "screen parenting" when their children are young because they are afraid of trouble.

　　Children’s best playmates are parents. Many parents give their children a mobile phone when they are young, so that they can calm down and play by themselves. When children develop the habit of playing with electronic products such as mobile phones through this "screen parenting" method, or find fun in it, parents often upgrade "screen parenting" to a way to control their children. If you are satisfied with your child’s performance, reward him to play with his mobile phone for a long time. If you are not satisfied, deprive him of the right to play with his mobile phone. Over time, in children’s minds, playing mobile phones and playing games is happy, and the occurrence of this happiness is irregular. Only when parents are in a good mood can they play as long as they can.

　　When the child enters rebellious adolescence in this way, he will think, why can I play casually when I was a child, but I can’t play now? Why can’t adults just play and I can’t? Why can’t I play when other children can decide for themselves?

　　At this time, it is easy for parents to enter the parent-child war if they want to take care of their children’s mobile phone use. This is why parents should manage their children’s mobile phones early, slowly and flexibly, not late, quickly and rigidly.

　　Secondly, parents should help their children to start a variety of happy modes. Some children have no playmates, no leisure activities, and can only stay at home alone after studying, and there is no one to communicate with, and they also lack independent activities at home. At this time, mobile phones and online games are the fastest thing for them to get started, the most timely positive feedback, and the easiest thing to put into their emotions. When they turn on their mobile phones, they can escape from reality and forget their unhappiness.

　　For such children, we should help them reduce their study pressure, reduce their rankings, reduce their homework, improve the parent-child relationship and teacher-student relationship, increase exercise, increase classmate interaction, increase extracurricular reading, give play to their hobbies and specialties, let them get in touch with nature and engage in social service activities, and rescue them from mobile phone addiction.

　　At the same time, we must help children build a circle of friends. From the middle and senior grades of primary school, the influence of peers began to surpass that of parents and teachers. In junior high school, peer influence becomes the "first influence", and developing peer relationship is one of the most important life tasks for adolescents. At this time, it is a critical period to help children build their own circle of friends, develop friendship and find their own social support system. Therefore, parents should provide more time, space, financial support, guidance and protection for their children’s socialization. With social circles such as painting circle, technology circle, performance circle and sports circle, children will not be lonely and depressed, nor will they just play mobile phones in their lives.

　　At this time, parents should retreat appropriately, don’t snoop and monitor, and let go appropriately to let their children grow up in the group. Otherwise, parents with high sense of control will encounter children who pursue high autonomy, and parent-child conflicts will be inevitable.

　　Facing adolescent children, parents should learn to "quit" appropriately.

　　The research shows that once a conflict occurs, the worse the parent-child relationship, the higher the proportion of children addicted to the Internet, and the higher the proportion of playing games and brushing videos. Therefore, in the face of adolescent children, parents should learn to "quit" appropriately, leaving enough room for their children to be independent.

　　Let children manage their own time bank. Nowadays, many parents are keeping an eye on the time when their children play mobile phones. As a result, the more they stare, the more they can’t stare, and conflicts occur. In fact, mobile phone management is a problem that children must face in this life. If they can’t control it when they are young, they can’t control it when they are older. In fact, many of us adults and even the elderly are no better than children in cell phone addiction.

　　The author’s suggestion here is: When children go to middle school, they should learn to manage their mobile phone use. If parents are not at ease, they can set up a mobile phone use time bank for their children. Parents and children agree on the total time of playing mobile phones every week. Within the total time range, children can choose when to play or how long to play each time. If the total time runs out this week, parents can confiscate their mobile phones in the remaining days. If it is overtime or has special needs, with the consent of parents, it can be borrowed in advance from the total time next week, but the time interest should be paid at 1: 1.5 or 1: 2 times. If you have a balance this week, you can automatically transfer it to next week or redeem the prizes your child wants. In short, it is necessary to gradually shift the parental management mode of mobile phones to the self-management mode of children.

　　With the era of cloud storage, big data, 5G Internet of Things, artificial intelligence and mobile terminals coming to us, no one can stop it, and everyone must open their arms to meet the changes. For parents, this requires courage and wisdom. It is not feasible to rely on blocking. It is better to equip the children’s body and mind first and let them be "Peter Pan" who embraces the new era.

　　(He Lingfeng is a professor at Shanghai Institute of Physical Education and a member of the Steering Committee of College Psychology Teaching of the Ministry of Education.)

As we said yesterday, there were quite a few good movies released last week.

Therefore, in last week’s Douban movie-Zhoukou tablet list, six new films were on the list at the same time. Among them, the best evaluation is this Hollywood blockbuster "13 lives" which just went online in August.

This film is now rated by nearly 10,000 people, and it still maintains 8.3 points. In this year’s new film, it is also very worthy of attention.

At first glance, Thirteen Lives may not be so amazing, just a traditional disaster film. But thanks to this solidity and tradition, the film has maintained a very good visibility, which is the kind of familiar taste.

Of course, from the line-up, this film is really worthy of attention. The director of this film is the old director Ron Howard, who is also a heavyweight director in Hollywood. Both the director and the producer have participated in many excellent works.

Many well-known films, such as A Beautiful Mind, The Iron Fist Man, Fast Wind, Apollo 13, Dialogue with Nixon and so on, are all directed by Ron Howard.

Of course, he also has an actress daughter, bryce dallas howard, who is also well known to everyone.

In addition to director Ron Howard, Vigo Mortensen, Colin Farrell, joel edgerton and others also added a lot of color to the film. Only from the line-up, this is indeed the most noteworthy film in the near future.

Besides, the film is also very attractive in plot.

The movie "Thirteen Lives" is based on a real event, from the cave rescue incident in Thailand in 2018. It is estimated that some friends still remember that incident, because it happened to be during the World Cup.

Twelve Thai football teenagers went to explore caves with their coaches, but because the rainy season came early, they were trapped in caves by a heavy rain, which lasted for many days.

After that, the Thai government and thousands of volunteers from all over the world began a long rescue work.

Just last year, there was a documentary about this incident, so we can watch it together with reference.

That’s last year’s Cave Rescue in Thailand:

This documentary is also very exciting. Today, the score of Douban is over 10,000, with a score of 9.0, which is also a high-scoring documentary last year.

Its director is Jimmy Chin and Elizabeth Chai Vasarhelyi, a well-known documentary couple. Their previous documentary "Rock Climbing with Hands" must have been seen by many friends.

In fact, whether it is the documentary "Cave Rescue in Thailand" or the drama "Thirteen Lives", the content is similar. After all, they all originated from the same real event.

Or, you can look at these two films this way. The documentary "Cave Rescue in Thailand" is more like a background information display, so that you can better understand the whole incident.

The drama "Thirteen Lives", because it is a drama performed by actors, will naturally add some detailed descriptions and emotional clues, including the recurrence of some events that cannot be presented in documentaries, which will make the audience feel the event more intuitively.

Of course, for me, whether it is a documentary or a drama, the feelings are actually similar.

As mentioned earlier, in fact, we often see all kinds of news or movies about disaster rescue, but what is special about this incident is that apart from the official rescue in Thailand, there are thousands of volunteers from all over the world who work together and do their best to participate in this rescue.

Even the people who played a key role in the final rescue were amateur cave divers, not professional rescuers.

When this group of volunteers from all over the world, who had nothing to do with these teenagers, volunteered to participate in the rescue without fear of hard work.

Is the most touching part of this incident.

It shows the rare goodwill in human nature, ignoring language, race and national boundaries …

Is across everything.

The reason why I was moved by such a plot is that in the last two years, such goodwill has become more and more scarce.

When teenagers were found trapped in caves, the Thai authorities quickly organized a rescue team. However, this rescue is indeed very difficult.

Because the cave was very deep and filled with water, at first, they were not even sure whether these teenagers were alive or dead.

In order to get further information or promote rescue work, it is necessary to dive in caves.

Although Thai SEALs have rich diving experience, they are not good at cave diving.

After all, cave diving is not a routine diving, it will be more dangerous and more difficult. Compared with conventional diving, cave diving will face more complex and unknown terrain, including the possibility of passing through a very narrow hole.

Especially, in the process of cave diving, the visibility of divers is extremely low. On the one hand, the water in the cave is very turbid, on the other hand, there is really no light in the cave, and the function of their own lighting equipment is very limited, which is why they have to touch the guide rope all the way, because that is their eyes.

Therefore, although in the movie, for the convenience of the audience, we can still see their various behaviors in the water.

But according to the description of the real cave diver, you can’t see anything there.

Of course, the film can’t be made like this, so the audience can’t see anything. We just need to understand that rescue in reality will be more difficult and dangerous than in movies.

So, when the SEALs were unable to perform the diving rescue mission. Several main characters in the film, a group of cave diving amateurs appeared.

Because there is no occupation in cave diving, these people with rich experience in cave diving are actually amateurs, and they also have other jobs themselves.

Their participation has promoted the rescue process to a certain extent. First of all, the two leading men, John and Richard, went deep into the cave through hours of cave diving, and found these 13 people and brought back precious images.

This discovery undoubtedly brings hope to the families of teenagers and lets them know that the children are still alive. At least people are still alive, so we can carry out the next rescue work.

Of course, it’s not that simple.

As mentioned earlier, cave diving is a very demanding diving activity, especially the whole process is very long and complicated, and it often takes several hours to dive, which has very high requirements for the specialty.

At the same time, not long after the discovery of these teenagers, a tragic event happened. A former Thai Navy SEAL member died during rescue diving due to lack of experience in cave diving and oxygen exhaustion.

And his misfortune further hinted at the difficulty of rescue work. A well-trained professional SEAL can’t finish the cave diving and escape successfully.

How can a group of inexperienced children get out of the dark caves by diving?

Therefore, the film shows that after the two protagonists find that these teenagers are still alive. In fact, the two men were so complicated that they even wanted to escape and didn’t want to make this discovery public.

Because they don’t know what to do next, and they are completely incapable of bringing those teenagers out alive.

How to safely take this group of teenagers who have no diving experience and spend a few hours diving through the dark caves.

Officially, it is: an impossible task.

Of course, in the end, they successfully completed the rescue mission, and 13 people, including the coach, were successfully rescued.

Specific how to rescue, the film also tells the process in detail, interested parties can also pay attention to it.

What the film finally presents is that human beings have achieved the impossible with their efforts.

Such a result is always touching.

In fact, whether it is this "13 lives" or the event itself, the touching reason is that most of the participants are ordinary people.

So in the climax of the rescue, the director specially arranged an emotional scene. One of the rescuers accidentally got lost while taking a child away. Because he was too flustered, he thought that the teenager might die. Tension and fear made him close to collapse and kept blaming himself.

Fortunately, in the end, it was just a false alarm. Everything went well and the children were saved.

However, this scene will also make the audience more aware that these rescuers are really not heroes, they are just ordinary people, and they also have fragility and fear.

However, the heroic behavior from ordinary people will be even more touching.

And the most wonderful thing about this "Thirteen Lives" is that it tells a story of a civilian hero and their kindness across national boundaries.

At the same time, the actors have also paid a lot for this film. For example, several leading actors have done a lot of diving exercises for the film, and they need to shoot their own diving. But diving, especially cave diving, is really very difficult and dangerous, and the actors also said that there will be great panic during diving.

Colin Farrell, the male host, even said that in the future, he might be cautious about making a film about water sports, because this film left a great shadow on him.

Of course, although it is very serious, Colin Farrell has made a lot of preparations and efforts for this film. In addition to practicing diving, I have been communicating with the prototype of the character to better understand the role.

Even, because the prototype he played was keen on long-distance running, Colin Farrell practiced long-distance running, and even ran a Brisbane Marathon during filming.

Finally, I finished the race in 3 hours and 54 minutes.

According to official data, he averaged 5 minutes and a half kilometers, and finally ranked 34 in his 45-49 age group (64 in total) and 222 among all the players. As a player who practices and plays, this result is still ok.

Therefore, this group of actors is really too hard to run a marathon for the movie.

After the film was released, the overall evaluation was also good. In addition to douban, IMDb also scored 7.8 points.

Of course, I also saw some questioning voices. It seems that some netizens on Douban feel that this film overemphasizes the role of several white cave divers and ignores the efforts of other volunteers, because thousands of volunteers from many countries actually participated in this rescue activity, including the Thai government.

How can I put it? I can only say that this is the limitation of the creator, or it is called a choice. After all, movies are always limited by time, and creators also have their own direction of expression. Movies can’t cover everything, and they always have to be prominent and choose.

There’s nothing I can do about it.

Of course, watching such a movie, I still hope to give up more bad feelings and just feel the film from the perspective of ordinary people.

Whether white, black or yellow, when participating in this rescue activity.

In fact, they are all kind people first.

Including, in this rescue, a group of China volunteers also participated and provided a lot of support.

All of them are worthy of respect.

Special feature of 1905 film network A friend left a message in WeChat official account, indicating that she was more inclined to choose in the same period.

Today, there are still four days before the big movie "ipartment" will be released this Friday (August 10th), but everything doesn’t seem to be so smooth.

　

At noon, Weibo, the official of ipartment TV series, who has not spoken for a long time, suddenly posted a blog, announcing with a piece of Copyright Certificate that he would file a civil lawsuit against people related to the film, and made a request to the Film Bureau and China Film, hoping to stop the film’s release.

In the Copyright Certificate, it is clearly stated that "Lianfan Computer Technology (Shanghai) Co., Ltd. is the funder and sole authorized person of the play. The domestic and international distribution and economic benefits of the play are handled and enjoyed by Lianfan Computer Technology (Shanghai) Co., Ltd.."

In the column of references, Wang Tianyun’s signature of Shanghai Film Group Co., Ltd. is very eye-catching.

　

However, the film "ipartment" official micro soon released relevant certificates to "counterattack" and said in a statement issued, "In view of the fact that a company in Weibo today claims to’ invest in and enjoy all the rights of ipartment’, Shanghai Gog Film and Television Production Co., Ltd. (hereinafter referred to as’ Gog’) hereby declares as follows: The film’ ipartment’ was produced by Gog based on the original script of Mr. Wang Yuan, the screenwriter of the TV series’ ipartment’, and Gog legally owns the complete copyright of the film’ ipartment’ and has obtained all necessary laws in advance. Gog reserves the right to sue and even hold accountable for malicious slander and harassment of ipartment’s copyright and intellectual property rights."

　

Within a few hours after the incident, the media contacted Mr. Li, the relevant person in charge of Lianfan Company, for the first time. Mr. Li said that the news of Lianfan, a Taiwan Province company with its headquarters, was relatively lagging behind. The movie version of "ipartment" didn’t have a title at first, but only related creative information. (According to Xiao Dianjun, as early as the beginning of the year, the film was named "Finally, I am back to do things again". )

“After we got to know each other, we began to collect these companies and sent them lawyer letters one after another, including that we also applied to the China Film and Film Bureau for an injunction. The whole process also takes some time. It was not until last Friday that we sent all these materials. China Film just sent it out today. Only then can we take all the evidence and send them to the media."

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Mr. Li also said that the biggest reason for the collapse of Lianfan Company and screenwriter Wang Yuan in the later period was too much plagiarism. According to Mr. Li, Lianfan Company once questioned Wang Yuan, but Wang Yuan’s response at that time was "to pay tribute to foreign movies and TV series".

　

In fact, when searching for "ipartment’s plagiarism" on Baidu, there were 2.5 million pieces of information. Even when the drama version of "ipartment" was popular, many media compared it with American TV series frame by frame. Therefore, it is unknown what will happen to the movie version of ipartment.

The movie version of ipartment has only released a 30-second preview since it started its publicity in June. However, in this 30-second preview, there is hardly any substance. The other three special features are completely centered on "Ten Years of Feelings".

There are only 4 video materials so far.

But is this "ten years of feelings" really effective? Perhaps it is still a question.

Looking back on the four seasons of ipartment, several leading actors are still impressive, and Chen He still bears the logo of "A good man is me, and I am Ceng Xiaoxian".

However, in this film version of ipartment, Eric Wang, the actor of Sekitani Kamiki, and Jin Shijia, the actor of Lu Zhanbo, are both absent.

　

This absence is no accident.

Earlier, Eric Wang said in an interview that he would not appear in the film version. Even when a fan on Weibo asked, "How can you shoot Love 5 like this?" He replied directly, "It’s none of my business."

Later, he simply shut down Weibo’s comments and avoided these strange "interactions".

A while ago, in an interview with the media, I talked about this topic again. He directly said, "For me, filming ipartment is just an experience, and it’s not that important. Everyone thinks that the filming of ipartment 4 should be over. Because we can’t cooperate anymore, don’t you think it looks more and more like an advertisement, regardless of copying? It’s all advertising. Why make a movie?"

　

However, at that time, the director of ipartment was still supporting Eric Wang’s new work in Weibo and said "Chuanjun is a rare good actor.",suspected to respond to Eric Wang’s diss.

There are still four days before the film is released. Apart from the early plagiarism, it is now caught in a copyright storm.

So, will you still go to the cinema to support this film of "Ten Years of Feelings"?

　　Children enjoy reading and enjoy reading together. The 7th Reading Festival of Central Primary School of Changlinhe School kicked off. On the afternoon of March 17th, middle and senior students’ representatives held the first activity of the Reading Festival in the multimedia classroom-the essence of writing and the essay contest.

　　Books bring us happiness and thinking. Through reading, our hearts meet reading, and we can meet with books, so that we can be good students who love reading, read good books and study well. Students in Grade 3 and Grade 4 share their reading stories with the title "The Story of Me and Books". At the same time, in order to commemorate the 62nd anniversary of Lei Feng’s death, we should earnestly study Lei Feng’s advanced deeds and promote social integrity as the goal, and carry out various forms of service activities to learn from Lei Feng, vigorously carry forward the volunteer spirit of "dedication, friendship, mutual assistance and progress" and make contributions to building a harmonious campus. Students in Grade 5 and Grade 6 write about the stories related to Lei Feng.

　　The students who participated in the competition were full of ideas, brilliant pen and flowers, and completed a series of excellent works, which drew a successful conclusion for this "writing essence, essay competition" activity and laid a good foundation for the reading festival activity of Changlinhe School Central Primary School. (Miao Tingting)

　　Editor: Gao Linxia